| The Feminine Mystique and the Ministry by G. Lloyd Rediger Dr. Rediger is director of the Wisconsin Conference of Churches’ Office of Pastoral services. This article appeared in the Christian Century July 4-11, 1979, p. 699. Copyright by the Christian Century Foundation and used by permission. Current articles and subscription information can be found at www.christiancentury.org. This material was prepared for Religion Online by Ted & Winnie Brock. The mystique of the pastoral role is well known.
There has always been a masculine mystique in the ordained ministry, but now,
with the sudden influx of hundreds of women into the profession, it is logical
to ask whether there is also a feminine ministerial mystique. If such a mystique
exists, what is it like? What does it tell us about the church and about the
profession of ministry? What has long been a male-dominated,
female-influenced profession is now becoming a male-majority, female-minority
profession. Some male denominational executives and ecclesiastical
functionaries predict disaster. They are outvoted, however, by those who assume
a relatively easy transition to a dual-gender profession and those who see no
logical or theological basis for excluding women. Scant DataThe outcome is not likely to be disastrous. In
fact, some benefits are already evident. On the other hand, the transition will
probably not be as easy as some seem to think; more than our theology of a male
clergy is being challenged by this gender shift. As director of a confidential ecumenical
counseling service for Wisconsin clergy and their families, I have had the
opportunity to specialize in clergy issues and to hear those issues articulated
across the full range of theological stances. My years of experience with male
and female clergy suggest some answers to the aforementioned questions. And
though there is not yet a great deal of data on women in the clergy, there is
enough to suggest some trends. No, there is not a feminine mystique in the
ministry -- yet. So far, female clergy are in that typical developmental stage
of imitating the majority of their peers -- who happen to be male. The message
in these tentative conclusions is that women have not yet consolidated the
female experience of professional ministry. There will be some floundering
before clarification of roles occurs. The church has not yet dealt with the
full reality of the female presence in the clergy, nor has the profession. Having gleaned same insights during my own years
of ministry and in counseling both male and female clergy, I can offer some
tentative deductions from the new and scant data on women in the clergy and
from my own files on the personal and professional concerns of several hundred
clergy of both sexes. The oversimplified answers to the three earlier
questions concerning the presence of a feminine mystique in the ministry
require further discussion. I want to compare the typical male career track
with the one emerging for women. Then we can note some typical issues that have
surfaced in my counseling of women pastors, and finally we can risk some
projections concerning future implications of the gender shift. Rites of
PassageThe typical career track for male clergy is
shaped by five professional “rites of passage.” The first is the internal
experience of the “call” to ministry. Here the young man acts out of an inner
experience of some kind or accepts the suggestions of significant adults that
he should enter training to become a pastor. He usually has or finds one or
more model pastors to imitate. He proceeds through the normal steps of seminary
training, ordination and denominational placement in his first pastorate. In
this first church (Or the second one, if the first pastorate is brief) he
undergoes the next professional rite of passage. He begins to experience the
difference between his idealistic notions of the institutional church and its
everyday realities. How he comes through this disenchanting experience often
determines the style and attitude of his ministry. Assuming that the young pastor settles into an
appropriate and satisfying professional style, he comes to the third rite of
passage about 12 or 15 years into his career. He now wonders whether this is
the way he wants to spend the rest of his life. If he decides affirmatively, he
must find new reasons and commitments, or reaffirm the old ones. About ten years before retirement, he encounters
a fourth rite. He must cope with the accumulation of years and worry about
being downgraded in his church moves. Or he may make maximum use of accumulated
experience and skills, if he finds suitable professional opportunities. But in
this role he must identify positively or negatively with midlife issues and
project this identity successfully to peers and parishioners. Passage through rite number four points the
pastor toward the final one, the change from full-time to part-time or retired
status, with all its incumbent demons and rewards. There are variations in the oversimplified
career track noted above, but my purpose is to show the similarities and variations evident so far as
women traverse these professional rites of passage. They may develop
significant passage points quite different from those of their male colleagues. The
Feminine Career TrackThe experience of the first rite of passage for
the women clergy I have talked with varies from the male experience in the
following ways: The young woman is likely to have a similar inner experience of
a mystical “call,” or in some other way feel led to make a conscious decision
to train for the ministry. But her role model and her experience of
verification from significant adults usually vary from that of her male
counterpart. There are not many female pastors yet. Therefore, the aspiring
female minister’s model is often a woman who has fought (or is fighting) the
battle for acceptance, or she identifies with a nongender generalized model of
the pastor. She is not nearly so likely to receive encouragement from a number
of adults in her pursuit of the ordained ministry. She must essentially
initiate and sustain the early motivation within herself. If she persists in
this career dream, she can now move rather easily through seminary and, in a
growing number of denominations, through ordination and placement or the
receiving of a call. Her encounter with the second rite likewise
varies from the male’s. If she had difficulty finding a parish or placement,
she had to abandon some of her idealism early. And if she had to fight hard,
she may soon be asking the question of the third rite of passage: “Do I want to
spend the rest of my life in this career?” The data so far indicate that a woman who gets
this far tends to stay for an appreciable period of time -- probably because
she had to be self-motivated to begin with. Since she was attracted by the
challenge of the ministry, she is not quite so fearful of conflict as her male
counterpart tends to be. But, given the minority psychology of this new
phenomenon, it is possible that she may be staying because her feminine presence
is still exciting to male peers, because she is needed as a “token female” by
denominational executives, and because lay backlash is not yet threatening. Women pastors have not yet been around long
enough for us to note any pattern in their handling of midcareer issues. It is
likely that they will encounter the same self-doubts and resentment as do male
clergy at pejorative assumptions about chronological age. And it seems likely
that they will have already assumed the easy grace of age or a tough-minded
stance toward conflict, depending on whether their career paths were smooth or
difficult, and on their personality type. If a woman pastor arrives at retirement age with
her pastoral identity intact, she will likely become a revered model for the
next generation of women clergy. Issues
Unique to Women ClergyNow let me turn to some counseling issues I have
encountered with women clergy. It is apparent that they must deal with the
typical challenges which men also face in this profession. They must deal with
the inordinate need for approval clergy seem to have. They must cope with
unusual schedules and the reactions of husband or family to the demands of the
job. They must handle the issues of intimacy with parishioners. They must find
a style and purpose for their ministry. They must discover a personal and
corporate faith that nourishes their ministry. And they must cope with
institutional politics. Beyond these typical challenges, several are emerging
as unique to women clergy. It is not yet apparent whether these are socially
conditioned, a function of female personality types, or a combination of the
two. The unique issue that surfaces most clearly is
the need for a “mentor.” Gail Sheehey in her book Passages points out
that women often feel a need for a mentor to support their entry into a
professional field. We find that women clergy, especially young ones, seek
approval from a significant male. They need to have him explain the rules of
the game for the profession and to experience his guidance and support until
they feel confident in themselves. The social and psychological implications of
this process require more years of data for thorough study and examination. The second unique issue is the dual-career
phenomenon. A married woman’s career is still often regarded as secondary to
her husband’s. The crisis comes when her career demands run counter to his:
when weekly schedules conflict; when it comes time for her to move to another
church and he is not ready to move; when child-care arrangements must be worked
out. Similar problems arise with male clergy, but the male career has more
often been assumed to be primary. Another variation occurs when both spouses
are ministers, The role of sexual ‘behavior’ in the
clergywoman’s career also has some unique dimensions. If she is physically
attractive or has a style which men experience as sexually attractive, she is
likely to feel that she is being treated as a “sex object.” With the permissive
direction in sexual ethics now in vogue, she must succumb or have convincing
reasons to resist such pressure. We have not yet come to terms with sexual
intimacies among peers in the clergy. The advent of women clergy requires
re-evaluation of policies and theology regarding sexual behavior between the
sexes and with the same sex. Old implied standards are either poorly understood
or inadequate for the intimate intermingling of clergy peers. Somewhat related is an issue faced by unmarried
women pastors. Men often feel threatened by the intellectual and authority
roles of these women and by their ability as pastors, and therefore are
reluctant to initiate or share a close relationship. The woman who is strongly
attached to her profession may angrily ask: “How can a career so important to
me have such a penalty attached?” The woman pastor also faces the challenge of
role identity. Should she simply emulate her male colleagues? Will she find
approval if she acts like the male clergy? Is there a unique female version of
ministry? Can laity accept female pastors? The pressure of this issue is
evident as men and women, clergy and laity, ask gender questions about the
profession. So far we have found that women clergy are tending to imitate the
male tradition. A
final unique challenge is that of leadership. I am speaking particularly of
what is usually called the “prophetic” role of clergy. Can a woman minister
speak Out on sensitive issues in her church and be accepted? Can she command
acceptance of her decisions and judgment? Those questions are obviously
troublesome enough if the minister is male. Our experience shows that women
tend either to avoid potential conflict issues, or to give the sensitive issue
a “sexual politics” dimension and therefore gather a loyal group of
sympathizers to the cause. The clergy role has always had some so-called
“feminine” dimensions (sensitivity, nurturing, etc.). but only men were allowed
to fulfill them in clergy roles. A Variety of
Styles If there is not yet a feminine mystique to the
ministry, are there typical feminine styles? It’s probably too soon to identify
a female style of ministry, but the indications we have show the following: 1. The Change Agent Style. Women who
highlight social justice and sexual politics tend to project a crusader image.
If they offend key persons, they are usually categorized as “women’s libbers”
or as “bitchy” or “pushy” and relegated to the ranks of other unacceptable
stereotypes. If they are fortunate and psychologically astute and
professionally competent, they may win grudging or admiring support. But the
drain on physical, emotional and spiritual energy often takes its toll. I have
encountered several such women pastors who manifest what is called the
“burn-out syndrome.” They experience depression, cynicism and loss of
confidence, and ask such questions as: “Was all the struggle worth it?” “Where
do I go from here?” 2. The Innocent Questioner Style. Such a
woman seems genuinely puzzled by the reaction to her being a pastor. She can’t
seem to understand why she can’t move easily into a traditionally male role and
be accepted. 3. The Tentative Style. Such a woman
realizes she is breaking a social taboo, but seems willing to test out the
possibilities. 4. The Exhibitionist Style. This style
develops for the woman who enjoys the attention of being unusual. Trends and PossibilitiesThe ideas I have presented are limited, because
of the relatively scant material available and the inadequacy of our
male-dominant pattern to assimilate the new possibility. But the data seem to
suggest the following projections for the church and our profession: 1. Our random flounderings in the changing
milieu will continue for the foreseeable future. We carry an emotional and
theological residue from centuries of male-dominated church leadership. 2. Because of male dominance, men as well as
women have been limited in their perception of God and the community of faith.
Sensitive learning of new modes is essential for both sexes, but this growth
will not come easily. 3. It is likely that a storm is brewing in the
profession. With the overabundance of clergy, with the church’s current
acceptance of the novelty without coming to terms with the reality, and with
the likelihood of a backlash from the laity, we can expect to have a large
group of angry ordained women in the near future. They will wonder why
seminaries gave them easy entrance but failed to prepare them far the struggle.
They will be angry with denominational executives who refuse to fight for their
placement. They will feel betrayed by male peers. They will be disillusioned by
laity who are unaccepting of their ministry. They will struggle with the “queen
bee” syndrome among themselves. (The “queen bee” is the woman who achieves her
own ambitions and then tries to hold other women back.) And they will be angry
at themselves for getting into this bind. 4. Denominational policies and social
stereotypes will strain, then adjust to this gender shift. Doctrine and
theology will catch up belatedly. 5. The reaction from laity (in the church and in
secular settings) will be accepting only to a limited degree. They will likely
respond in terms of political and economic biases rather than theological ones,
for the theological education of the laity has suffered in recent years. But we
can expect laypersons who are informed theologically to come forth with some
strong theological statements for and against women clergy, making for a lively
debate after the fact. And the lay response will likely lead to some deeper
concern about the selection, training and placement of clergy. 6. It is possible that some ordained women will
their places beside  male theological
giants. That development could assist the church and society in coming to terms
with the full meaning of sexuality and caring love in God’s creation. 7. Some clergy couples will find creative
solutions and develop enlightened marriage styles (some have already done so).
These trends may enable women clergy to make a unique contribution to the
pastoral role. If denominational executives and lay leaders are aware of the
opportunity, the church will benefit. These projections are tentative. Some of them
may seem frightening. In reality, there is reason to be hopeful: beneficial
consequences can be expected when both sexes can make their full contribution
to the leadership of the church. And, if we believe our gospel, the church
belongs to God and is therefore in good hands, though human leadership may
falter. God is trying to tell the church something with
this sudden gender shift in the clergy. It is apparent that we still have
difficulty hearing when God says anything new. |